When you run the house by yourself, you do things certain ways and have a system that keeps everything going. It has been so hard for me to step back and allow him to develop his own ways of doing things while I work in a nearby room.
I am trying so hard not to undermine his authority with the kids or criticize when he cleans the house differently than I do, but it sure is hard to sit here and not think of how I would be doing things.
Even though I know there is no way I could handle all of the responsibilities of running the house, caring for the kids and writing full time, I still find myself trying to figure out a way to do it. It isn’t that my husband does a bad job – he’s working hard all day long – but I find it hard to relinquish my position in the home.
We are slowly developing a routine that works, but it is taking a lot of time and compromise to get to where we both feel happy with the distribution of responsibilities. I know that someday soon we will find a happy medium, but for now, I am still working hard to give up my job and let him do his.